First things first, don't let the title of this post fool you. I am not the queen of thinking positive - honestly, I am quite the opposite. Thinking positive is something that I am working on and I really want to get to a place where it comes natural. I've come a long way in the last few years, I have struggled with anxiety and depression so unfortunately - that affects my everyday life but I do feel like it gets better every day.
A few years ago, I did some traveling and read a book that literally changed my view on a few things. I have re-read this book at least 10 times because like I said, this thought process does not come naturally to me so when I read this book - it reminds me and helps me see the other side. It's called "Who Will Cry When You Die" and don't judge this book by it's name - it's not a sad book at all. It's actually a self-help book for men and women dealing with anxiety. I've shared this book with so many women in my support group and everyone loves it - I wish this were a paid ad but it isn't I just really like the book!
Here are some tips on how to think positive while trying to conceive:
1. Wake up early - Sure, this advice sucks. It's not fun to wake up early, I get that but it's very beneficial to your mental health. I'm in the habit of waking up early because I have dogs that are so use to waking up with my husband at 5:30 a.m. so on the weekends they are ready to start their day around 6:30 - 7 a.m. so I get up with them. I'm one of those who cannot go back to sleep after they are awake. I hope that changes whenever I do have a baby, I'll be so tired that I'll sleep whenever I'm sure! Here's the thing, Waking up early can make you really productive. My favorite time of the day to do house chores is before 8 a.m. because when I am done, I have a whole day to enjoy my clean house and I can do other things with my time.
2. Eat as healthy as your lifestyle allows - I word it that way because not everyone can eat super healthy, it's expensive to buy all healthy and natural ingredients and I'm not rich so I understand this. I'm also working on getting better at this myself. If you eat healthier, your skin, body, mind, etc, etc thanks you. Also, you are trying to create life - you should be the best version of yourself! But eating healthy actually helps mental health more than you know. Think about it, if you feel good and look good - it will be easier to stay positive.
3. Read - I feel like reading is a lost art but it is so relaxing for me. Honestly, I wish that I could read more but I work full time, blog, podcast as a hobby and spend time with my husband so I don't have a lot of down time. I'm working on a post now of all of my favorite books but in the meantime, the one I mentioned above is perfect. HERE IS THE LINK TO THE BOOK ON AMAZON - $12
4. Have a mantra/mirror message - This is kind-of a new one for me. I have always loved a quote because it makes me think deeply about what it is I'm looking to feel. For example, if I am wanting to think positively, by reading one or more positive quotes/mantras/mirror message - I will think about what I read all day and it will boost my positivity. So I suggest that you read these early in your day and remember them throughout your day, week, etc.
5. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people - If you have any toxic people in your life, maybe don't see them as often or think about letting them go. In my life, I have had some negative and toxic people in my life and I had to make the tough decision to let go of that friendship/relationship because I knew that my life would benefit from it. There is a lot of harm in having a negative friend because they will always make you feel angry or upset and those emotions are not healthy and feeling them often can harm you in more ways than you realize.
6. Try this with your partner, everyday say one good thing about your day - In my opinion, this one is the hardest thing to do because sometimes you just have a really crappy day and can only think negative things about it. We have all been there. But try this with your partner, maybe during dinner or after work sometime both of you say one positive thing about your day. This could potentially change your mindset to see the good in every situation.
7. Don't think about the past - This is the most important piece of advice that I have for you and I saved the best for last. In order to think positive in this journey, you cannot think about the past. You cannot think about how last month you really thought that you were pregnant and that you were devastated when you found out that you weren't. It's hard and it sucks but you can't think of it and you need to let it go. Don't think about the number of months that you've been trying, just think about this month. Focus on the month that you are in and do everything you can to give it everything that you've got. All you can do is your best, the rest is not important.
I'm not an expert on this and I honestly haven't mastered the "art of thinking positive" but I'm working on it every day and these seven tips - are what I live by during this journey. And since my sixth cycle of trying to conceive, I haven't really felt down, depressed, or negative. So, maybe, just maybe, that means that this is working!
Comment below with any tips that you can share with me and other Dreamers about thinking positive!
And if you decide to try "Who Will Cry When You Die?" (linked twice above) please let me know what you think!